This is where I am supposed to tell you all about my education – list my degrees and training, certificates and specialized education. That stuff is important, yes. However, (and this is a big however), all the degrees and training and framed diplomas in the world won’t tell you if working with me will work for you. So, instead of listing my accomplishments and academics, let’s grab a coffee (maybe only virtually these days!) and get to know each other.
Number one – I’ve been there.
It’s easy for someone to say “I understand” – the truth is no one REALLY understands your experience because it’s uniquely yours. That said, I have my own lived experience with many of the things you may be going through. My experience is not the same as yours, nor anyone else’s but it does give me empathy…and I believe strongly in the power of empathy.
Number two – I LOVE coffee. I mean I LOVE it! In session, it would be surprising to see me without a cup of coffee close at hand. Most of my best conversations, decisions, life stories started over a cup of coffee so I will likely offer one to you when we meet (or tea, or water if those are your preference). See, I come from a background where conversations naturally evolve over lingering cups of coffee. It’s part of who I am and how I work. Our therapeutic relationship should feel comfortable to you, after all, when we’re together (in the barn, online, or in the office), you will be sharing things that are important to you and a warm cuppa sometimes eases the path to conversation.
Third – Laughter is healing. So are tears. Both are authentic human experiences. Yes, we will talk about serious issues, sometimes emotions will be raw. However, I love to laugh and will encourage you to laugh too. Life is short and part of our work together may be to help you find joy in the day-to-day. Mostly, I will laugh at myself, my puns are terrible and plentiful.
Sometimes a hot cup of coffee is the best way to start a conversation.